It is so easy to go through the day to day activities while being on auto-pilot or unaware of the present moment. I mean, we all do it. Are you aware of this moment..? How about this one..? I challenge you to be in the moment (no thinking about what to make for dinner or when to find the perfect time to cut the grass). There are two verbs that I would like to bring to your attention: “be” and “do.” As part of the western culture, it is common to hear one say, “What are you going to do tonight?” Nobody says, “What do you be?” I would even like to venture out to say that the language inhibits living in the moment, which therefore makes it difficult to become familiar with being in the moment.
But even though “be” does not seem natural, let’s give it a try and see what we can discover when we practice being in the moment. The point of this notion is that only when you teach yourself to become aware of the moment can you truly understand the needs of the Self. When I talk about the Self I refer to the core of who you are - the combination of physiological, emotional, and spiritual entity. (I am leaving out the social entity right now for a reason). Yes, we have a very little idea of what the Self is, let alone are aware of the needs of the Self.
I believe that in order to understand the Self and then connect the Self with the outside one needs to take on a journey of transitioning. What’s the meaning of this journey? Well, through self-discovery comes awareness… Put it in a different way, as part of self-discovery (the journey), I believe, you will begin to ascertain your story and then tell it to others as you are meaningfully connecting with others. This is the story that helps to identify your Self. And as we connect with others, identifying our supports and socialization needs, we will move towards healing.
When I encourage you for self-discovery I would like to emphasize the importance of taking the STEP towards the journey because that step is what brings about change and transformation - healing. Not the outcome, but rather the process and movement are needed... I recall how in my childhood there was this game that I would play with my best friend. See how much I can trust you. She would turn her back towards me, stand a step or two away from me and then fall backwards… just to see if I’d catch her. Then it was my turn… But it was just one step to “prove” how much one trusted the other. Do you trust to take that step to begin your journey of self-discovery? We cannot look at how to find the healing through the traditional medicine only, but rather the healing power that comes within YOU deciding to change wholly. There is power hidden inside of you to make the choices for finding your Self.
I am a Licensed Clinical Social Worker in PA. After receiving my MSW at the University of Pittsburgh, I have dedicated my professional career on working with children and their families as I advocate for their needs in our educational system.